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Tough Love: A Lesson in Accountability

When people learn that I’m a personal trainer, they often start telling me about how they’re unhappy with their appearance or their level of fitness or their general overall health, and how they really need to start taking better care of themselves and working out. As a trainer, I get so excited to hear that they’re taking an interest in caring their for their bodies and I want to jump right in to “how can I help you achieve your goals?!” But I also know that before I (or anyone else) can help them, they need to be committed to helping themselves. They need to take responsibility for their current physical shape, and understand that, ultimately, only they have the power to change their lives and reach their goals.


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Be brutally honest with yourself: what choices are you making today that are keeping  you from reaching your fitness goals? You know what they are. They may be hard to admit to, but admit them to yourself. What are you doing wrong?

  • Are you skipping workouts?
  • Have you been doing the same workouts for years with no variety?
  • Are you eating fake (a.k.a processed) foods?
  • Are you drinking too many of your calories?
  • Are you not sleeping enough?
  • Are you not drinking enough water?
  • Are you snacking late at night?
  • Are you eating too much fat and/or sugar?

This can be a painful realization; to acknowledge how the choices we make on a regular basis are sabotaging our fitness goals. It’s so much easier to blame someone else, our circumstances, our lack of time, our lack of energy. We feel helpless to do anything about it and wait for someone to fix it for us, to make the circumstances ideal, to make the timing perfect.

The truth is only you can make it better for yourself. Only you can achieve your goals by consistently making choices that align with what you want. Your trainer can’t do that for you, your spouse, your boss, your kids – no one else can put in the work for you. No one else can eat the right foods for you, or exercise your body for you, or define your state of mind and self worth for you. This is a harsh reality: you are 100% responsible for 100% of the choices you make.

But at the core of that responsibility is empowerment. You are the only one making your choices. So make them good ones. You know what you need to do reach your goals. The trick is holding yourself accountable to do those things consistently, and being honest with yourself when you don’t do them.It’s ok to not be perfect; it’s ok to allow yourself to indulge once in a while or go easy on yourself when you need to. But be honest with yourself that it’s a choice you’re making, and if you want different results, you need to make different choices.

This is something that everyone struggles with, myself included. But instead of drowning under the weight of that responsibility, let it empower you. You know what you need to do, you know what choices you should be making, and you have the power to make good choices for yourself! Everything you want is within reach. Only you can put in the time and effort it takes to achieve your goals, and in your heart of hearts, you know if you really are doing everything you can to get there. Your trainer and your support system can help guide you and encourage you along the way, but ultimately, it’s all you. So what are you waiting for? Get after it!

Dreams Come True (When You Work For It)

On Instagram @aimeekinz

On Instagram @aimeekinz

When I first started this blog, I did it with the intention of  documenting my progress as I fulfilled one of my dreams to become a certified personal trainer. Three weeks ago, after nearly two years of juggling work and study, I finally did it!

If you follow me on social media, you may have seen my post on Instagram and Facebook:

For a long time I thought that I could never know enough, that this was a dream for someone else and it wasn’t worth pursuing. Then one day, with the support of so many wonderful people, I realized “why NOT me?”. After a lot of hard work, I am so proud and beyond excited that I achieved a dream today and can now officially call myself a Certified Personal Trainer! No matter how insignificant your dreams may seem, go after them! #motivation #nasm #lovemyfitlife


Staying On Track When You Can’t Work Out

This week I got hit with a nasty summer cold (aren’t those the worst?!). Sitting around doing nothing while I’m laying sick in bed makes me incredibly restless. I can’t go to work, I can’t work out, I barely have enough energy to drag myself to the kitchen and make a cup of tea. During times like this when I’m out of commission, whether it’s due to an illness or an injury, it’s hard to stay in a good headspace about maintaining my fitness. I feel guilty that I haven’t been to the gym all week and when I’ve been able to eat, it hasn’t always been the complete, well-balanced meals that I’m used to. Other people I know have felt this way while they were recovering from an injury (knee injuries, shoulder injuries, back injuries – they can keep you out of commission for several weeks!). So what can you do to stay on track when your body needs a break? Here are some suggestions: (more…)

The Power of a Workout Buddy

There are a few key factors that contribute to the success of any lifestyle change. One of them is MOTIVATION. In order to commit to and stick to a long term goal, you have to be properly motivated. That’s what will keep you going when the going gets tough. Another one is EDUCATION. You can have all the best intentions in the world, but if you don’t know what steps to take to make your goals a reality, you won’t get very far. Hopefully this blog can be a resource for you to continue expanding your knowledge of how to go about achieving your health & fitness goals. A third key factor, and the one that this post is going to focus on, is SUPPORT. Nothing great is ever achieved alone. Even though no one but you can do the work it takes to change your life, having a support system to cheer you on and hold you accountable can be a huge advantage. In my experience, when you’re trying to live a healthy & active lifestyle, the most authentic & powerful support comes from your workout buddy.

Photo credit: bulubox.com

Photo credit: bulubox.com


What is your “Why?” and Other Thoughts on Motivation


Imagine you’re 15 miles in to your first-ever marathon, wondering what it was that ever possessed you to subject yourself to such a tortuously long race. Or maybe you’ve just been sweating it out hard on the treadmill for 20 minutes and the ‘stop’ button is seductively staring you down. Imagine you’re 2 sets in to your 3-set workout, thinking about dropping your weight to about half of what you should be lifting, or ditching the last set altogether to finish up early. In those moments, when you feel your resolve slipping away and nothing sounds better than giving into the temptation to stop or slow down or give up, you find yourself asking “why?” Why am I doing this? Why should I keep going? Why not go easy on myself? Why not give up?

It’s nearly impossible to achieve any goal without having proper motivation. Our reasons for living a fit life are as diverse as we are, and in times of doubt and temptation and weakness, it’s important to know what your “why” is. Whether it’s to rock your bikini on the beach this summer, to cross the finish line at a race you’ve always wanted to participate in, to play with your kids without having to stop and catch your breath, or maybe to add a few more years to your lifespan, your “why” is what will keep you focused on your way to achieving your goals. It’s what will make you turn those moments when you feel like giving up into the moments when you push yourself the hardest. (more…)